Adult things arent NEARLY as complex as I thought they were growing up I just walked into bank of america and said im here to open a checking account and they said ok and opened me a checking account
If you have anxiety about being an adult, it may help to think of adult things as basically just doing a lot of quests.
Me: [googles “where do i get a passport”] Me: [goes to that building] Me: [asks first person I encounter] Where do I get a passport? Them: Third floor, room twelve. Me: [goes to that room] Me: [asks first person I encounter] Where do I get a passport? Them: That desk over there. Me: [goes to that desk] Me: Where do I get a passport? Them: Fill out this form. Me: [thinking] Silver key opens the garden gate, in the garden is the red key, which opens the red door, there’s a boy in the red house who tells you his dog is trapped in the old abandoned barn and can I please rescue him…
being an adult is a serious of fetch quests and waiting in lines
In all seriousness though, one of the most liberating things about being an adult is it’s perfectly acceptable to walk up to another adult and say, “I don’t know how to do this thing, can you help me?” and they will.
I’ve used this for everything from renewing my tags at the DMV to buying a house to cooking a steak. Adults are way more chill with ignorance than I thought they would be, but if you’re up front and just say, “Hey this is new to me, can you walk me through the process?” they just. Will?
Sure there are some assholes out there but mostly just…people are cool helping you figure out how to do things.
“It’s a common misconception that members of gay relationships have to map onto the roles of a straight couple: woman and asshole,” said Acharya. “But neither of us is the asshole; that’s the entire point.”
Ryser had a number of follow-up questions to this explanation.
“So, if neither of you is the asshole,” said Ryser, “then who plays devil’s advocate when you’re having sensitive political conversations? Who takes the other person’s side when you describe a microaggression? And who gets furious when you’re driving and one of you has to pee?”
Demonstrating immense patience, Acharya tried once more to help Ryser understand.
“None of those things are necessary for a relationship,” said Acharya. “In fact, they’re all bad. People in straight relationships should not do those things either.”
i need help paying off my credit card & getting my laptop fixed before i fall into worse debt than i already am
hey guys. i know this isnt the first time ive had to ask for help but im in a really bad situation money-wise right now
for those of you who dont know me, im ignis, im 21, trans masc, he/they pronouns. the situation is that basically
i had to move back to california from washington in august because my grandpa kicked me out for, basically, being Too Depressed, and i had to move back in with my family down south who have a history of heavily emotionally abusing me. and while they’re a lot nicer and kinder to me now, i’m still in the closet with them and if i ever did come out to them, i’d get kicked out again.
the problem here is that when my grandpa kicked me out, i had very little to no time to pay off my current balance on my credit card, because i had to leave my job asap and my paychecks were already spent paying for the cost of having to move states with my cat in the first place. i had to ask for help paying off my credit card back then too, but as i was expected to basically pay for the trip myself, that’s what that money went to.
unfortunately i still haven’t been able to find a stable job since then, so most of my time is spent cleaning the house i live in now in exchange for… well, being allowed to live here. and my credit has stacked up now where if i don’t start paying it off soon, i’m going to be in serious trouble.
the thing is, my laptop just took a shit today. it’s already been giving me trouble for a long time, hence why i stopped being so active on this blog and making content, since my laptop just couldn’t handle it anymore. and while i can get it fixed, that’s going to cost me about ~$150 i don’t have, and it’ll put me in further debt with my family, on top of the ~$450 in debt i am on my credit card.
i really don’t want to let this get any worse than it already is, so i’m asking for help. this isn’t a life or death situation, but i do depend on my laptop for basically any kind of entertainment and enjoyment i get, and i just can’t afford to let my credit any worse than it is. i would really appreciate any help any of you would like to give. unfortunately i can’t promise anything in return for donations because, like i said, my laptop is busted and needs to be fixed, and honestly i’m so depressed and have so few spoons because of my situation that i can’t promise i can get anything done anyway.
my ko-fi is https://ko-fi.com/A62147F, and alternatively if you’d like to send money as friends & family directly thru paypal, you can do that at https://www.paypal.me/jeongguk. any amount helps, but please don’t feel obligated to donate or anything. i’m sorry i let it come to this. but thank you. really. 💕
